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Our monthly column MOM WITH<\/a> aims to redefine what it means to be a “normal” mother by focusing on how it feels to live with a mental disorder. We see you, we hear you, and we’re in this together.<\/em><\/p>

Javen Hilton, also known as Javen Elizabeth, is a mental health advocate. Why? Javen suffers from borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety, and panic attacks. Javen is also mom to two boys, 8 and 3 years old.<\/p>

“Growing up the oldest of five, from a Black single mother with low income in a high-end neighborhood, was not easy. I was the product of teenage parents who could not get along even if their lives depended on it,” Javen tells us. “Inevitably I experienced a lot of childhood trauma. I grew up to later understand that my mother had experienced her own trauma that was inevitably passed down to me.”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Our monthly column MOM WITH aims to redefine what it means to be a “normal” mother by focusing on how it feels to live with a mental disorder. We see you, we hear you, and we’re in this together.Javen Hilton, also known as Javen Elizabeth, is a mental health advocate. Why? 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